Let’s play!

An outdoor, under cover play area so bored kids can unwind from shopping even though it’s throwing it down with rain? Well done, White Rose Centre. Good work.

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Going in Pairs

Lads roll their eyes

When they see us pop

To the loo in pairs

Easy to be blasé

When you’ve never been groped

And had no one believe you

Never been pinned against a wall

Never been leered at

With no one to back you up

Never stalked in a dark corridor

Like some sort of prey,

Weak only because

Of foolish patriarchy

That somehow thinks

We would make these things up

Like it’s jolly to say

‘I was touched’

‘I was hurt’

‘I was raped’

Who says these things for fun?

Not all men! Comes the cry.

Of course, and likewise

Not all women lie.

So don’t begrudge us

The fragile safety net of

Going in pairs.

Now that’s faith…

At the Seaside

We went to Hornsea this weekend. It’s where my fiancé’s parents live, so we go fairly often. It’s almost inevitable that we’ll end up on the beach. Even when the kids don’t demand it, I do! And the dog has two walks a day down there, getting rowdy and sandy.

This is a ‘creature house’. In order to understand its purpose, you’d need to have a better grasp of the seven-year-old’s mind than I! For the past few visits, he’s insisted on building one of these. First we have to source the right stones; a firm foundation. Then they have to be laid out quite precisely. Then, usually, one of the big people has to fetch a bucket of seawater to create a pool- so the creatures have water too.

He wandered away from his creature house for a short time, and was delighted to find it attracted some actual creatures! Gulls and a huge crow came to check out the new structure; a proud moment for our intrepid constructor and conservationist.

Big Deal

Just because something isn’t a big deal to you, doesn’t mean it isn’t a big deal to someone else.

If someone tells you something is bothering them, listen. It’s completely okay to not understand. It’s not okay to belittle their emotions.

If someone snaps, ask if they are attacking you personally. If they are, that’s not okay. But if they’re just expressing exasperation or anger at a particular situation, try to listen.

If someone suffers from anxiety, then irritation or anger can be a sign of an impending attack, or of moderate to severe generalised anxiety. Anxiety doesn’t just present as nervousness or panic, especially in people that have to mask those feelings on a day to day basis.

Above all, make sure you’re not holding people to higher standards than you expect yourself to be held to. We’ve all experienced times when something mattered to us that seemed trivial to others. Remember that feeling, and use it to empathise when you face someone in a similar situation.

A big deal is always a big deal to the person experiencing it, whether you understand it or not. Be kind.

Lugh’s Lesson

I walk up to the gates

And I tell them

How much I have to offer

How much I have to give

But they don’t want to know

They’ve seen it all before

You don’t write better

Sing better

Fight better

Than any we’ve seen before

Ok, I say, the way

Through your closed-mindedness

Is clear

No fear, I’ll show

Instead of tell

I’ll write the words

That make you

Laugh, cry and sleep

I’ll sing the song

That brings the past

To life

I’ll fight the warriors you send

I’ll toss the blocks

I’ll break and bend

And mend

These bridges fast.

Lugh showed us well

Do, don’t tell.